"I should have re-wired the cap for a 351 before I tore it down, but didn't."
Am assuming you are referring to the firing order? However, did not this kit ship with a cam that follows the 289/302 firing order? Please explain your reference to "351?
1. If #1 piston is at TDC and the cam is installed "dot to dot" with the chain in-place. Then, this relationship is correct.
2. Your firing order should be for a 289/302 (assuming you installed the cam that shipped with your kit) and is noted in the image.
3. With the crank at TDC, both #1 valves closed, insert the distributor, orienting the rotor in vicinity of #1 on the cap. Keep in mind the rotor will rotate as the helical gears mesh.
If all is as it should be above and the valves pre-load, have been correctly adjusted, the engine should fire, May not run perfectly, as timing adjustments may be needed and the valve preload tweaked. Also know to follow proper break-in practices for the cam an lifters.