In a recent post, I referred to my wife as SWMBO, just as many of you do. I was looking at that thread and had to leave in a hurry to go do a tow. She called me a little later, having read the thread, and told me she didn't appreciate being referred to in that manner. She took it as being considered a nag. I told her that I use it as a term of respect, in that she is worthy of my obedience. I would like to hear others' opinion on this.
jmoffett
I am guessing that SWMBO is somebody's idea of a "cute" reference but it doesn't fit my wife. My SB (sweet baby) is definitely not a SWMBO. I can tell you that I do seek her advice and she has awesome insight but she doesn't badger, boss, or make me do anything. She supports me 100%. If your SB isn't demanding and truly doesn't expect to be the "alpha" then I can see why she might be offended. I would not use this acronym because it does not fit my SB. What if she referred to me as HWMBO? I am sure that would fail the political correctness test.
Well, I'll tell ya'; after almost thirty years of marriage I can attest to the fact that I've tried it just about every way possible and have positively concluded that to continue for at least the next few in a happy and pleasant relationship the best procedure is to consider her SWMBO.. 
(Hint) Maybe just keep it to yourself
BTW If you have man items in your main bathroom like Mustang or motorcycle pictures, no fuzzy seat covers or dainty candles; I'll concede that you are the Man and have no reason to refer to her as SWMBO.
(Hint) Maybe just keep it to yourself
BTW If you have man items in your main bathroom like Mustang or motorcycle pictures, no fuzzy seat covers or dainty candles; I'll concede that you are the Man and have no reason to refer to her as SWMBO.
She who must be obeyed said I couldn't respond to this - not really. :: :: :: It's a great wife who lets me do what I do - mess with cars and such, almost all the time. My wife is definitely the better half of our team. She's the smarter one, definitely the prettier one, and on top of that, the Mustang is hers. But she does let me play with it -- the Mustang, that is !!! :: :: ::
I'm with GTClown. I've been married for 23 years, and my wife is certainly SWMBO! *LOL*
She's not really, but one of our favorite past-times is to tease each other. She thought it was pretty funny that we refer to our significant others as SWMBO, and that the women refer to theirs as HWMOM. She knows is all in jest ... she also wishes it was true (that she must be obeyed) ::
She's not really, but one of our favorite past-times is to tease each other. She thought it was pretty funny that we refer to our significant others as SWMBO, and that the women refer to theirs as HWMOM. She knows is all in jest ... she also wishes it was true (that she must be obeyed) ::
I would agree with Mach Mike. I have used SWMBO in posts before, but it is does not accurately describe my wife (who never reads these things). I would not think about making a large purchase without discussing it with her, and she gives me the same respect. We both know that we can trust each other to not do anything stupid that might endanger our finances.
My first marriage was not like that at all! ::
My first marriage was not like that at all! ::
Well call me MAN then baby!
OK so they're magazines and catalogues. And maybe they ARE buried under the Victorian Homes, Better Homes and Gardens and other items of the female persuasion.
And maybe we do have that fuzzy thing on the seat (Ever try to keep the seat up with one hand and....)
Yeah - she's SWMBO. She knows it. I know it. No one objects to it. She actually found it humorous the first time she saw it.
Frank
Well after some thought, my wife is a part time SWMBO. SHe makes the majority of the money, by about 3 times, so she gets a lot of say. As far as the bathroom is concerned, it is definitely hers. My last bastion of manhood in the house, a single bookshelf in the office has been banished to a closet. At least I still have the garage, she hasn't figured out how to drive the Torino (reverse amnual valve body in tranny) so I am pretty safe there. As far as the part time thing, we make most decisions together except when it comes to car things. On her 69 she picked the color and the rims and has left everything else up to me, so she is a part time SWMBO.
SWMBO is not always a wife. My sister-in-law is a part time SWMBO. She cooks me dinner every now and then,
Lets me steal her hubby on more weekends than I really deserve and makes me clean up whatever mess I make in the house.
She put up with me during my gas line crisis at my house and even likes my girlfriends.
But, if I am available for a favor, she knows that she can call and get my help.
In fact, all the ladies in our family are SWMBOs. They can be convinced of different paths, but we must respect theirs.
We usually just call it "family" and let it go at that. I can think of no higher accolade than SWMBO!
It does not mean henpecked or "whupped" , It means they are respected and important.
When I told my sister-in-law that she was a SWMBO, she was touched and flattered....
She even opened the door for me as I carried in the groceries.
Bruce Lowry (East Texas)
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Lets me steal her hubby on more weekends than I really deserve and makes me clean up whatever mess I make in the house.
She put up with me during my gas line crisis at my house and even likes my girlfriends.
But, if I am available for a favor, she knows that she can call and get my help.
In fact, all the ladies in our family are SWMBOs. They can be convinced of different paths, but we must respect theirs.
We usually just call it "family" and let it go at that. I can think of no higher accolade than SWMBO!
It does not mean henpecked or "whupped" , It means they are respected and important.
When I told my sister-in-law that she was a SWMBO, she was touched and flattered....
She even opened the door for me as I carried in the groceries.
Bruce Lowry (East Texas)
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Although I am not married, I do have a SWMBO. While the term is not exactly 100% politically correct, everyone knows that's basically how it is in most relationships. And even if it isn't, even if it's a completely 50/50 thing, it's all in good fun. Most guys joke about it with other guys, and sometimes, even their SWMBO jokes about it, I know mine does. If you don't feel it appropriate to use, then don't use it. But I don't think it should be banned from the forum. Just my $.02
I use the term SWMBO & my wife even has a shirt that says she who must be obeyed, but that doesnt describe my wife at all. She lets me do my thing, which is also her thing playing with the cars, & my woodworking & she likes to play in the kitchen trying new recepies. :: But she also has one car & I have the other car which makes a nice aragement. ::
Then you never will.
Rarely can women who are control freaks hide their true colors for very long. But I know several men who go from one to the other; it seems they need that controlling person in their lives. My brother in law divorced his wife and married another one within a year who was just as bad.
My wife and I are true partners, everything gets discussed without problems. There are certain areas that I am the decision maker, and some areas that I concede to her expertise. Works perfectly.
Well, I can say I also have a SWMBO. On the day we got married my father pulled me aside and said, "A happy wife is a happy life". The best advice I ever got, Thanks Dad. I had a mustang that I bought when I was 18, I started to restore but other things got in the way. I sat in my parents garage for 18 years. After we were married and bought a house, it was moved to our house. My wife said it has to go. You do not have the time needed to finish it. After some negotiation, she told me to buy one that was already restored, as long as the other mustang disappeared. God, I love my wife.
Ha! SWMBO in no way can I ever say that about my wife.
Total motor head in her own right. She first freaked when she had grease under her nails. Sesh now I can't keep her out of the shop.
Besides my wife is referred to as "High Maintenance." Or atleast that is what her shirt says ::
Total motor head in her own right. She first freaked when she had grease under her nails. Sesh now I can't keep her out of the shop.
Besides my wife is referred to as "High Maintenance." Or atleast that is what her shirt says ::
The acronym is tongue in cheek for me. I do obey her wishes except for keeping a project car around. Denise is my wife, my best friend and the person I want to be with the most. We don't see eye to eye on restoration. She doesn't like cars that don't run. She can't see the forest for the trees where I can see a nice shiny car someday. Her focus is home, family and getting me to upgrade the house. My focus is home, family and getting to work on rusty cars!
Do I think the term should be banned, no. Not everyone has my sense of humor or disposition. Do I think it's right to call her SWMBO.... now that I really think of it, no. She's just Denise, stuborn, pigheaded, bully and I love her. :: :: ::
Do I think the term should be banned, no. Not everyone has my sense of humor or disposition. Do I think it's right to call her SWMBO.... now that I really think of it, no. She's just Denise, stuborn, pigheaded, bully and I love her. :: :: ::
I think I will squeak this one in while I'm still just a "Beginner" . I think if she doesn't want to be called "SWMBO",you must obey her and not do it.
Kind of a Catch-22 or maybe just one of those irony things..
Personally, I have been married 23 years and some of the most important parts of a relationship are trust,respect and a sense of humor. But, like the little sign on the refrigerator at my parents house says " If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
Kind of a Catch-22 or maybe just one of those irony things..
Personally, I have been married 23 years and some of the most important parts of a relationship are trust,respect and a sense of humor. But, like the little sign on the refrigerator at my parents house says " If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
My wife let's me think I'm boss.
Not really. think about this, she is going to be putting a lot of her over time $$ (tax season) towards wheels and tires for my 70. And if she wants to be referred as SWMBO, so be it. She thinks that is cute. She even wants to get plates for her Tahoe that says SWMBO. It's all in fun. BTW we talk about most every thing, and it works great. Just as long as she lets me think I'm boss :: ::.
Dave
Not really. think about this, she is going to be putting a lot of her over time $$ (tax season) towards wheels and tires for my 70. And if she wants to be referred as SWMBO, so be it. She thinks that is cute. She even wants to get plates for her Tahoe that says SWMBO. It's all in fun. BTW we talk about most every thing, and it works great. Just as long as she lets me think I'm boss :: ::.
Dave
SHHAPISSH (the infamous sound of a whoop)
Just teasin'. I had a talk about this with a friend (female) a while back ago. She laughed at the idea of any one calling her that. As for my girlfriend, I've never really told her about it. I dont think she'd be offended seeing as how its not true. Either way, she KNOWS OF this forum but doesn't know anything about it.
Just teasin'. I had a talk about this with a friend (female) a while back ago. She laughed at the idea of any one calling her that. As for my girlfriend, I've never really told her about it. I dont think she'd be offended seeing as how its not true. Either way, she KNOWS OF this forum but doesn't know anything about it.
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